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The infertility team at HCRM assisted Wendy and Daniel to conceive their daughter using IVF. Wendy and Daniel felt supported and cared for at HCRM.
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Wendy Karen: So we went through in vitro fertilization and we came in.
First we were assessed to understand if there were blockages or problems.
I had blocked tubes so they thought IVF was the best way to go. And we were
assessed and went forward with that procedure. It took time, several
months. And you have to do hormone stimulation and get ready for the
procedure. And it took several tries, but eventually it worked. We tried
to get pregnant for about a year and a half, and it wasn't working. So I
was speaking with one of my friends at work, and she had been here and
spoke very highly of the Heartland Clinic. And I came here from her
referral and moved forward after meeting Dr. Maclin.
Daniel Karen: Something wasn't working. We had to figure out what that
was. And I always wanted to have children. This was the best way to go
about it. We needed to have a little assistance.
Wendy Karen: Everyone here is very professional. Their hearts are really
into what they do. It felt good to be here. It felt like they really
cared, and I believe they do. Once we were confirmed that I was pregnant,
I was extremely excited but also nervous that I didn't do anything to
compromise the pregnancy. So at my age of over 40 getting her to full term
and healthy was a huge concern for me so I did everything the doctors told
me. Eat healthy. Took the vitamins and did everything. And once she got
here, I was so relieved because she was here and she was healthy.
So for me that was actually the biggest heartache of the whole thing was I
don't want to screw this up. I don't want to lose her. So for me that was
the hardest part was actually being pregnant, not getting pregnant
emotionally. And then once she was here then I was, of course, the crazy
mother, oh my God, is she breathing every five minutes when she's asleep
and making sure she's okay and is she eating enough and just the normal, I
think, craziness of being a mom, but it's been great having her here. Love
it.
Daniel Karen: It's been a little odd for me because it's this process that
you literally make a donation once and then sit back and watch it evolve.
And you watch your wife change. You watch your life change, but at the
same time you're a part of it but you're not, at least, that's how it felt
to me. Being present but sort of like almost in a half dream state, okay,
yeah, this is happening, this is happening, and then boom we have a baby.
And that's when the reality really hits you.
Wendy Karen: Again, I just think they take it so personally. A lot of
them are mothers, and they watch people go through heartache and joy, and
they're there for you. They support you. They feel for you. They give
you good guidance. They become your friends and family in a sense. They
just care deeply which is a huge comfort when you go through something like
this. You know I think the hardest thing about in vitro fertilization is
that you come in always hoping for the best and you invest time, emotions,
energy, your friends' support, your family, and you never know if it's
going to work or not.
We're so thankful and lucky that it worked, and it took a lot of trying,
but there are people out there unfortunately it doesn't work and it's heart
breaking. And I feel for everyone, but I feel like if you don't try it and
give it a shot you didn't give it your all. They made it easy for us. At
one point we didn't think we would conceive, and I was okay with that, but
we were lucky and we did.
Daniel Karen: I think a lot of people will put so much into the hope that
it will work that it could be devastating if it doesn't and that takes its
toll. That emotional roller coaster does take its toll, but in the end you
don't remember all that much. You are faced with the challenges and the
realities of now raising a child, and it just refocuses your entire life.